Fear of rejection

To belong, and be connected to others, is for most of us an essential part of life. Believed by many to have a strong evolutionary component (we were much more likely to survive when we could share the tasks of hunting, fighting, and caring for the babies) close relationships, and being part of a social… Read full article

Are they a Narcissist?

Labelling someone as a narcissist has become a popular way of expressing disdain for them. People often refer to someone as narcissistic if they are selfish, full of themselves and have little concern for how they make others feel. I commonly hear the “N” word used to describe cheating exes or nightmare bosses, with varying… Read full article

Coping with Depression

It is hard to log in to any sort of media this week without hearing about depression, and the sad death of Robin Williams. When someone famous succumbs to this illness there is often a flurry of commentary fueled by fear and sadness, and a commitment to start talking and acting more. For this conversation… Read full article

Coping with Infertility and IVF

I’m a psychologist and I also work as a fertility counsellor for an IVF clinic. As you can imagine, the counselling department of an IVF clinic is always busy. Over the years I have been privileged to assist countless women as they undergo fertility treatment. Sometimes this is with a husband, sometimes a female partner,… Read full article

Eating Disorders Stigma

Being a psychologist and the sort of person who walks along side her friends when they are suffering, I have a fairly good idea of which friends have experienced what mental health difficulties. It is not uncommon for a friend to say “my moods a bit low right now” or “I am having panic attacks… Read full article

Feel like a fake? Impostor syndrome

If you hear a friend playing down their achievements by saying, “Oh I just got lucky this time,” or, “It was just a fluke,” they may just be being modest, or they may actually believe it. The truth is that countless numbers of high-achieving and successful people feel as if they are faking it, that… Read full article

Anxiety: Friend or Foe

Racing heart? Tempted to call in sick just to avoid that big meeting? Feeling anxious about getting anxious just when you need it least? Anxiety is a normal human emotion, one we are hardwired to notice as it can help keep us safe. Yet for up to 45% of Australian’s this ‘helpful’ emotion becomes the… Read full article